In conversations about faith, life, and destiny, I often return to a simple truth: “My destination is a place that requires a new way of being.”

Too often, destiny is imagined as a fixed outcome; a profession, a location, even a predetermined fate. But if destiny is only about where we end up, we risk missing its deeper meaning.

Destiny is not just a place; it is about becoming. It is about how we live, love, and honor God and others along the way.

In grief companionship, this perspective is especially important. Loss has a way of making people question destiny: Was this God’s will? Did I take the wrong path? Is my life now defined only by absence?

When grief bends our understanding of purpose, pastoral care invites us back to the heart of what destiny truly is: not an immovable fate, but the ongoing invitation to live faithfully in the midst of sorrow.

Destiny, then, is shaped not by passive acceptance but by active choice; by the free will to lean into God’s love, to practice compassion, and to pursue peace even when pain tempts us to retreat. It is not found in resignation but in the courage to become, even in seasons of brokenness.

As grief companions, our calling is to walk with others as they rediscover this truth. We help them see that destiny is not stolen by loss. It can be reshaped through healing, rebuilt in faith, and reimagined in love.

Reflection Question: How might grief companionship help others move from seeing destiny as a fixed fate to embracing it as a new way of being in Christ?

Ze Selassie (Chaplain)
Christian Leaders Alliance
MA Candidate, Christian Counseling
Ordained Minister & Grief Companion

My destination is a place that requires a new way of being.
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